Read: Ephesians 5:22-33
God has created man and woman to be one in Christ. Although God assigned different roles to husbands and wives in marriage, they ought to love and respect each other. The Bible says that spouses should mutually submit to one another. Husbands are to love their wives sacrificially just like Christ loved the Church. Christ gave His life for the church, while we were yet sinners (Rom. 5:8), likewise husbands ought to love their wives more than themselves and forgive them for their shortcomings. If you are a husband, you must remember that God has given you a precious wife, and she is a gift from God. Be patient with her and consider her as a weaker vessel and love her immensely.
Wives must submit themselves to their husbands as unto the Lord. Submission should be out of deep love and respect for your spouse, and not forced. Wives should have deep respect for their husbands, just like Sarah addressed Abraham, as lord. Wives ought to revere their husbands. If a wife doesn’t respect her husband, if she constantly belittles him, how will the children learn to obey and respect their father? And if a husband is constantly nagging and abusing his wife physically and mentally, how will their children understand the value of family life and set an example in their family? Paul the apostle says, “Love is patient and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails” (1 Cor. 13:4-7).
Married life is like a ship going through a stormy sea. If you leave the rudder to Jesus, He promises to give you a blessed married life. A threefold cord is not quickly broken (Eccl. 4:12). Jesus is the third cord that binds the husband and the wife. Only with Jesus in your life, your marriage would be blessed and stable.